dealing with siblings

one of my younger twin brothers called me today. “will joe mind if i leave his bachelor party early?”

i rolled my eyes. ryan has been griping about this weekend for a few days now. “but oriona and i were going to go look at engagement rings.”

ok. number one, he can spend one night without his girlfriend. really. it can be done. no one has died from it yet. number 2, he can go to jewelry stores with her sunday afternoon. and number 3, isn’t it a little too soon for engagement? ryan has another year or so left in college, and she has a little more than that, i think. they want to get married next year, which i think is a terrible idea. don’t get me wrong. i like his girlfriend. she’s very nice, and i know he loves her. i just think he being 21 and she younger that it’s a little soon for marriage. they haven’t even been dating a year. at least graduate from college and get a job first. they have to have some way to support themselves.

then he hit me with the second question. “do i *have* to go to your rehearsal dinner?” seriously? was he really asking me this? i have to admit it was probably the most ridiculous thing i’ve ever heard. what person asks if he can skip his siblings wedding rehearsal dinner.

i bit back saying sarcastically, “do you want to skip the wedding too?” and simply told him he needed to be there before hanging up. i’ve never really felt ryan liked me too much, maybe from how he is always rude to me, but wanting to skip my wedding rehearsal dinner was completely uncalled for. all i can keep thinking is, only 12 more days…

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Hi! Iā€™m a wife to a wonderful husband, mom to a beautiful and active (to put it lightly) kiddo, and fur-mom to 3 crazy cats. Iā€™m a former journalist. I quit my full time job two years ago. Now, I am a freelance writer and a virtual assistant for several bloggers!

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  1. Liz says:

    Wow… I couldn’t imagine one of my sisters not being at my rehearsal dinner. One of my older sister’s got stuck in NYC right before my rehearsal due to weather, but she made it just in time. I was so bummed right up until she walked into the door thinking she was going to make it. Tell your brother that you only get married once and he’d better be there!

    I can’t believe it’s only 12 more days away!! I’m getting so excited for you!

  2. Tara says:

    Boys suck. šŸ™‚ But I feel your pain. Only those kinds of questions came from my IN-LAWS. I really don’t like those people. REALLY.

    Don’t let it bug ya. It’s your day! And it’s almost here!!!!


  3. Cristy says:

    It’s not a wedding unless there’s family crap going on. I had my fair share,too. Sounds like he’s an immature 21 year old. Yes, it is your day. Keep in mind: No one’s looking at rental boy. It’s all about the babe in the dress.

  4. Lisanne says:

    I cannot BELIEVE how close your wedding is!!! Can you believe it? OMG! How are you doing? Nervous? I remember how excited I felt. I wish you guys all the best!

  5. Jenny says:

    He’s a 21 year old male. That right there is the explanation for his question.

    And generally, for those not getting married, the rehearsal dinner is one of those things you kind of dread going to (yawn) and then you kind of get caught up in the whole family wedding thing and enjoy the heck out of it once your there.

    12 days?!?!?!

  6. Laura says:

    Ouch! It sounds like he and Oriona are in their own world. Someday he will realize what a big deal every part of the wedding is. And it sounds like it may be soon if he’s wanting to get engaged. I’m sorry he’s being so selfish . . This is the time for YOU to be justifiably selfish, because it’s YOUR day And it’s only a week away!

  7. Jennifer says:

    I don’t know what it is with brothers… I won’t get into my issues with mine. But Cady, you really need to let him know how important he is to you and why you want him there.

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