Feeding Choices

I’m still undecided as to how I want to feed Lucy. I thought I had my mind made up earlier when I mentioned pumping exclusively. I do like all the antibodies and other benefits babies get from breastmilk. However, when I think about it now, I realize I have not totally made up my mind.

It’s a hard choice. I’ve always thought I’d feed my baby formula. My brothers and I were raised on formula, and we turned out just fine. Plus, I just don’t have the desire to breastfeed that other mothers have, and I don’t think it’s fair to Lucy to nurse her out of obligation. I thought pumping and then feeding her from bottles was a good compromise, but I realize now that I still have a lot of thinking to do.

Another reason I am considering pumping is because the upfront cost of the pump is a lot cheaper in the long run than buying formula. However, one of my friends formula fed her first baby, and she used the Parent’s Choice brand from Walmart, and her son loved it. Plus, it’s a lot cheaper than the name brands. I figured out on a baby formula savings calculator that by using Parent’s Choice Milk Based DHA and ARA rather than Similac Advance and I fed exclusively formula for the first 12 months, I would save $683.30 for the year. That breaks down to $56.94 a month or $13.09 a can.

As I make this decision, though, I’m not factoring in cost. That’s not as important to me as it is for me to pick what is most comfortable for me because, as my mom told me, Lucy will be able to sense if I’m not happy nursing her or pumping. I have a big decision to make in a very short time, especially since we’re planning on registering on Friday. I know I don’t have to register for my pump now, but if I’m going to pump I probably need to register for it soon. I can tell I’m going to be doing a lot of thinking this week.


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  1. Kristi says:

    Hi There…Lurker coming out of the closet šŸ™‚ First off, congratulations on your pregnancy. I thought I’d share a bit of my own experience regarding feeding. Lucy might just help or at least play a part in your decision. I exclusively formula fed my son (now 10) and he’s perfectly fine (although he has bad seasonal allergies and periodically I wonder if he would had I breastfed him, even though his pediatrician assures me that he inherited the allergies from his dad, not his formula!). He was on low-iron Enfamil and it worked great for him. I was 27 at the time and had no desire at all to nurse him. I think that was definitely a good decision at the time – I completely agree with you that if you’re not 100% for nursing, you and Lucy will be miserable.

    So, 8 years later, we had baby number 2. That time around, I REALLY wanted to try nursing her. I did and it was fabulous, however, at around 2 weeks old, we found out that she was highly allergic to dairy. I cut every bit of anything dairy related out of my diet (harder than you think, its in everything!) and we moved on. I went back to work at 3 months and tried pumping, but just couldn’t pump enough for her so we started supplementing with formula and you know what? She liked the formula better! One night, around 6 months, she refused to nurse in the middle of the night. Hubby offered to get her a bottle of formula (thankfully we’d been supplementing and had it in the house) and she LOVED it – that was it – she was done with my boobs. She went on to use soy formula (Similac), that we bought in bulk at Sam’s club, until she turned one.

    So, I guess my $0.02 is that who knows what Lucy’s preference will be? I really intended to nurse for at least a year, but my daughter had other ideas. It just hit home the fact that the best laid plans…

    Good luck with whatever you choose! The most important thing is that you’re going to have this wonderful little addition to your family. You can figure out the feeding (and a lot of other things!) as you go along.

  2. nanette says:

    Another option to consider is to not register/buy a pump yet, and wait until after Lucy arrives. You can usually rent a pump from your hospital if you want to try pumping/breastfeeding for a month or so to see if that works for you.

  3. Kami says:

    Check with your insurance, most will rent a pump for you from a home medical store, the brand we carried was Medela and it is a wonderful pump! I believe your doctor needs to write a script for it, but check with your insurance to see what their policy is, much better than you can buy at walmart or target šŸ™‚

  4. Michele Lane says:

    I was totally where you are with the nursing thing when I was pregnant with my Caitlin… no way no how. EW!… and then she was born.I totally intended to bottlefeed, and only gave nursing a try to apease an overzealous lalache league lactation consultant in the hospital.Turns out? It worked great for us! It was convenient, and hastle free. Its a lot easier to whip out a boob at night than mix formula half asleep šŸ™‚ She weaned herself at 8 mos old and we switched to bottles. no sweat. Dont stress out about this decision. Whatever is natural for you and Lucy will flow (no pun intended LOL) when she is here.

  5. Ben says:

    OK, I admit that my experience here is second-hand. That won’t stop me from giving free advice, which I’m sure will be worth every penny….

    Whatever you do, don’t let people pressure you. There are a lot of zealots out there that will try to make you feel guilty for not making the choice they made. (This also goes for cloth v. disposable, stay-at-home v. work-out-of-the-home, and a variety of other earth-shaking decisions.) This is a decision for you, Lucy, and to some extent Joe. Others can offer their advice and experience, but if they try to tell you “this is the way to do it, and if you don’t, you’re a bad mother,” they are out of line. Tell them to shove off.


  6. Kami says:

    Hey honey! I was just thinking about you today. I am so glad you came onto my blog. I still can’t connect to yours because of a URL problem I guess. I’m so glad everything is going so well. I’m also going back and forth with breastfeeding. That may be the route I go. Good luck!!


  7. connie says:

    I agree w/the others here, you have to go w/what is most comfortable for you & Lucy. I have nothing against breastfeeding for those that are comfortable w/that & decide to go that route. But, I just wasn’t comfortable w/breastfeeding & bottle-fed both our boys & they are perfectly fine. You have to make the decision that’s right for you, Lucy & Joe. And, I agree especially w/Ben~you are going to find there are people that second guess every decision you make & tell you they did it differently & that their way is best. DON’T worry about/listen to such people~just do what best for YOUR family šŸ™‚ And, Lucy will let you know what she’s most comfortable with šŸ™‚

  8. Lisanne says:

    I suppose that you could just see what Lucy seems to prefer? You could have all of the supplies on hand ~ pump, bottles, formula, etc. ~ and then see how breastfeeding/pumping goes. And if you end up feeling better about formula, you could go that route. Now they make bottles that have the formula dispenser in the bottom ~ GREAT for traveling!!! I feel strongly about breastfeeding, but I know that not everyone does ~ and Meredith got formula from eight months old on. Good luck with your decision! And have fun registering! Where are you going to register?

  9. Barbara says:

    What your Mom said is very true! I tried nursing my first daughter. At the 4 week check-up, they had me feed her in the Dr’s office. She only got an ounce. She had lost almost a pound. I felt terrible. For me, I think I leaked more than she ever consumed.

    I would say go with whatever your first instinct is. If you don’t like some aspects of nursing, then don’t let anyone talk you into it. Lucy will know if you are tense or not relaxed.

    One nice thing with formula feeding, is that Joe can get up and feed her in the middle of the night sometimes. In the first few months, you will really appreciate that. It seems like you just can’t get enough sleep, when there is a new baby in the house. But, what a joy and blessing they are!

  10. Christina says:

    When it comes to breastfeeding, I am definitely pro breastfeeding. I breastfed all three of my kids…. It was one of the most rewarding, calming experiences with my babies. It was totally our time. No one else. You have to do what is best for you. I would surely try it.

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  12. Cristy says:

    I was kinda like you in that I didn’t have that strong desire to breastfeed however I ended up doing it for a year. I thought I’d try it for a few weeks or a couple of months to give her the benefits, then switch to formula but it didn’t work out that way. First of all, try to find a friend that has a pump you can borrow. If that’s not an option, see if you can buy a used one. I know people say not to buy a used one, but I think that’s silly since you have to buy new tubing & that’s the unsanitary part. Just the tubing is about $50! With everything you need for a new baby, adding a $250 pump is tough. But, I also advise against buying a pump b/c who knows if you’ll be able to breast feeding or stick to it & then the money will be wasted. If you rent a pump, you have to pay for the weekly fee and $50 for the tubing. It’s also very expensive! Now, also be warned that pumping in very time consuming! It takes about 20 minutes (if I remember correctly) to pump. THEN you spend another 30 or so feeding the baby. In two hours, it’s time to do it all again. Pumping just adds another step. My child went from breast to sippy cup. No bottles b/c pumping took too long. Also, she had problems sucking from a bottle & formula made her sick. Breast milk just worked better for us & was easier. Like another reader said, sometimes your plans go out the window when Lucy gets here. She may be the one making the decisions. I say find a pump to borrow so you’re ready and then try to breast feed at first & just see how things go. I will also say that it was nice not having to prepare formula. I guess I should also add that breast feeding HURTS but only at first. The “experts” are all liars that say it doesn’t if you’re doing it right. I’ve never heard anyone that did it say it didn’t hurt at first. It takes two-three weeks to get over the hump. Hang in there.

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