Judgey Moms who Judge

My daughter is 2, and she isn’t potty training, still sleeps in her crib and doesn’t use a regular cup.

There. I said it. It feels like it’s taboo to admit things like that. I’ve been around some moms lately who have looked down on me because Lucy’s *gasp* 2 and not using the potty. We actually started the potty training process in December, and she was really into it. She wanted to sit on the potty all.the.time.

Then, for some reason, she suddenly became terrified of it, and now she doesn’t want anything to do with it. I don’t think forcing her to use it will make the whole being scared of it thing any better, so we’re waiting it out. To us, this means she wasn’t ready. So, we’ll wait until she is. I mean, she just turned 2 in November. And, it’s not like she’s going to go to Kindergarten wearing diapers.

The big girl bed and regular cup will come in their own time as well, too. She’s not ready for a regular cup. She’d spill it all over the place! Plus, she LOVES using straws. And, I plan to keep her in her crib as long as she doesn’t try to climb out. Why move her when she’s contained and can’t get up when she should be going to sleep?

My daughter is fine. She’s a happy, healthy, thriving toddler. When she’s ready to use the potty and move up to a big girl bed, she will. Until then, I will enjoy my sweet baby girl. And, I will tell all the judging moms to take their comments elsewhere. I’m not any less of a mother, and my girl isn’t any less of a 2-year-old. We’re right where we should be.

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Hi! I’m a wife to a wonderful husband, mom to a beautiful and active (to put it lightly) kiddo, and fur-mom to 3 crazy cats. I’m a former journalist. I quit my full time job two years ago. Now, I am a freelance writer and a virtual assistant for several bloggers!

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  1. Amber says:

    I couldn’t agree more! Drake is still in his crib and using a sippy/straw cup, too. He sits on the potty and usually goes at least once a day, but it wasn’t by my doing…it was all our babysitter. I am just not in a hurry!

  2. heidikins says:

    Those Judgey McJudgerson’s will have their moment to be judged, whether it’s in reading comprehension, times tables, or juvenile detention (notice how suddenly all their kids are slow and delinquent? Yep, that just happened.) Lucy is amazing and wonderful and completely normal. And you, my dear, are a great Mom. Judgey McJudgerson’s can go straight to….the end of the longest line at Costco on Black Friday. Yep, banished. To there. To wait in purgatory forever. 🙂


  3. Jo says:

    My daughter is almost 2. She, too, is not potty trained, sleeps in her crib, and uses a sippy cup. I was reading that the ideal age to potty train a child is around age 3 as there is this magic window of time where they can learn in a few days. Any earlier and you can spend frustrating months training them. We bought a training potty, but haven’t pushed our daughter in any way. In fact, she seems to think it is a reading chair (I wonder where she saw that before). I sounds like you are trusting what your daughter needs right now and that makes you a great mom.

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