Today is the 35/35 mark in my pregnancy — 35 weeks down and 35 days to go. It’s so funny how I’ve seen these posts on other blogs and thought that point would never arrive for me. And here it is. We are so close, yet it seems like we’re so far. Whenever December seems so far in the future I have to remember that it’s almost November. October flew by, and I’m sure November will do the same, especially with baby shower the first two weekends. By the time those are over, we’ll only have a couple of weeks left before Lucy joins our family.
I feel bittersweet about our family expanding. Obviously, I am *so* excited about Lucy and being her mommy, but I kind of get a little sad and nostalgic thinking about how it won’t be just the two of us anymore. It’s been just us for the last three years. And while we say that we’ll make sure to have date nights to spend time together as a couple, I know it won’t be the same. Our lives are going to change, but it’s for the better. I’m now imagining us watching Braves games together with our little girl sitting on the couch with us in her Bumbo seat. I can’t wait to share the things we love with her and (hopefully) watch her develop the same love for them.
Did any of you feel a little sad when realizing it would never be just you and your husband again?
I’ve actually be reading some of my old archives when I was pregnant with Amelia, and I REALLY struggled with this at the time. Now, I can’t believe it! Our lives are so much more full and enriched with her, our marriage is more concrete than ever, and I never miss the days of just the two of us. I wouldn’t trade being a mommy for ANYTHING in the world!!
PS. That said, I think it’s important to kind of “mourn” the passing of the newlywed/just the two of you stage, and that helps you to more completely embrace the stage of new parents! so exciting!
Wait, wait, wait… you said with us sitting in her bumbo? That seems uncomfortable! 🙂 35 more days. I can’t believe it’s so close. And yes, we’ll still have us time, beautiful.
I was probably the opposite of most people. I didn’t actually feel sad about losing “just the two of us” until it happened. I guess I never fully understood how much my life would change. For a long time after he was born, I had a really hard time with it all. Appreciate it now, because it will never be the same again, and that’s a good thing. 😉
Like Laura, I didn’t think about losing “just the two of us”. We’d been married seven years – so we had a good long time on our own – but I had no idea whatsoever what the impact would be. Yes, everything changes, but even though it was hard at times, I never wished to turn back the clock.
We didn’t get a “mourning” period so to speak, we found out we were pregnant soon after we got married. We make sure that even in the most hetic times when we have all the kids around that we make us time a priority. Every member of the family enriches the life and brings more joy and happiness. Once a month date nights are important, even if you just leave the baby with a friend or family member for a couple of hours while you grab a bite to eat out, or even during a long sleep period you make dinner and have a romantic evening just being you two, not doing housework either!